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22
Nov
2006

No Love Left in the World

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So, I'm walking out of Trader Joe's with my cart and my turkeys and a grocery cart full of snacks and whatnot, and I'm just about to pass two men walking in. The one guy looks Iranian, like my friend Farah's husband Mahmoud, with closely cut salt and pepper hair and perfectly tailored clothes, about 50ish. He's talking to his friend, who's younger--more my age maybe--and whatever the topic, they are both passionate. Just when our paths are about to cross, the older man turns to me and says, "I'm telling you--there is no love left in this world." "No, no, no!" I said. "That can't be true. Please don't say that." "Do you know that moment," the younger guy says, "when you are just at the bottom of everything and you have a little hope left, but you're not sure if it's going to last? You're not sure it's going to be enough? That," he says, turning to his friend, "is exactly where he's at right now." The older man shrugs in agreement, laughs and turns to go to the store. "Wait, wait a minute." I call back. "Come back. Come here. My whole day is going to be wrecked if we leave it like that." The man turns and walks back to me, until we are standing toe to toe, eye to eye. "Give me your hand," I order him, like a mother insistent. "I'm going to give you a blessing." And like a child knowing it would be foolish to refuse, he puts his hand in mine. I don't know what to say really. But I know that there is no such thing as no Love left in this world. I know that Love is always waiting, whether or not we have the courage to see it, to receive it. I stumble through a few sentences and he takes it, at least a little bit. I figure if all else fails he can always say There was that girl in the Trader Joe's. At least that's something. Now it's my turn to leave, but this time the other guy stops me. "Wait a minute! I need that so much more than he does! You have to say a prayer for me, too. I have to have it." I laugh and smile, since it's probably more like wishing than praying really, but he puts his hand in mine and waits--the way you wait when you're desperate for good news after the worst disaster. The way you wait when you don't have a choice. I feel so helpless and silly, trying to find words that will ease one man's pain. I don't know what to say, I don't even know if what I'm saying is true or not--for him--but I am trying. I want something to make a difference, something that will stay with him long after this day. "Your path is unfolding before you," I tell him. "You cannot see it now, but it's true. All you have to do is take the next step, one step at a time. Open your eyes and receive everything you need. Something so much greater is holding you, I'm sure of it." At this, his eyes fill up a little bit and he nods, trying to take it in. They ask my name and I tell them I'm going home right now to light candles for both of them, that I will be thinking about them both all day. It's the only thing I know how to do, to try to hold that tiny piece of suffering as long as I can, to remember them, to care. On the way home, I call my sister and tell her the whole story. "It's just horrible," I tell her, "to think that right now people are wandering around the grocery story feeling like there's no love left in the world." I sigh. "How many people do you think are feeling like that?" "Um, almost all of them?" She laughs and then she sighs, too. I hope it's not true. I'm the kind of person who has total amnesia about every hard time I've ever had exactly five minutes after it's over. I can be ready to blow my brains out one second and then have a change of heart and feel like everything makes perfect sense the next. I wish I could say I walk around blessing people and that I have faith in humanity and Divine Source even when I feel crummy. But I'm probably more inclined to tell strangers that there is no love left in the world. At the grocery store. In the parking lot. Can you see now why those two men instantly endeared themselves to me? I came home to Moirita singing a little song to herself while her mother, my friend, Lourdes performed miracles on the mess upstairs. I tell Lourdes what happened. "Aye, pobrositos," she says. I tell her how lucky I feel that someone would tell me such things, but she thinks I mean just lucky in general about my life. "Aye." she says, answering me in spanish. "You are one lucky woman." That brings me down to earth, to every kindness, to every privilege I have. I light the candles, first one, than the other, hoping that the man will find the love he needs. That his friend will see his path unfolding before him, and that I will have the eyes to see it for myself, whenever sadness finds me, whenever I fear hope is lost.

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Tink1976
December 2006 | Tink1976
You are so special.

I felt so touched by this you truly are an amazing women, we all should take what you did and try to do something similar. I feel blessed by just being able to read your experience and feel your kindness.

The world needs more people like you, so I will try to be more aware of those round me.

Thank you x



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matthew
December 2006 | matthew
Just found this...

Awesome post Jen - got me a bit teary I must admit.  Thanks for putting this here   you are one awesome bundle of mom.



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Chrysalis
November 2006 | Chrysalis
Oh OMG
That is the most beautiful story. You are an incredibly special person and you have spread that love around the world by sharing.
Thank you and bless you xoxoxoxoxo


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Jessgore
5.00 (Excellent) | November 2006 | Jessgore
I feel the love..
Just by reading this I feel the love.... WOW!... Excuse me while I go and give my family a hug....
thank you....xxxxxxxxx


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exquisite-flower
5.00 (Excellent) | November 2006 | exquisite-flower
Forever
Nice one girl! Those guys will remember you forever!  I bet you really made their day and a perfect memory for them because like you say - you will always be 'that girl at Trader Joe's' and that will never leave them.  I wish I could do things like that every day for people.  It is soo nice to think that we make a difference in someones day, even if it is just to see a real smile.
Good on ya!
EF.x 


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      jenlemen
November 2006 | jenlemen
Forever
the funny thing is that it came totally out of the blue and i wasn't expecting it at all--but i DO want to be there for people like that, and i've got to believe that if you do too, that someone in need will show up for your kind words, too! :)


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dramamom
5.00 (Excellent) | November 2006 | dramamom
Wow!

I'm impressed that you took the time to talk to those two men.  I think, that instead of walking around the grocery store thinking there was no more love, those men are now thinking about how you showed them love.

Good for you!



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      jenlemen
November 2006 | jenlemen
Wow!
i hope so drama mom!


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Izzy
5.00 (Excellent) | November 2006 | Izzy
great

I think it's great of you to take a few minutes and knock some positive sense into those men. Unfortunately, when we are in the middle of what we percieve to be our "darkest" moments, we are unable to see anything positive. We wallow in our own self-defeating thoughts adn those thoughts drown us. It takes an outsider to sometimes knock us off our bums and give us some sense of hope and perspective.

Fortunately for me though, I am like you, in that once I'm out of the "moment" it's pretty much fogotten.



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      jenlemen
November 2006 | jenlemen
great
:( don't you hate that? i have to hope that someday i'll be able to hold that much light in my darker moments.


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michellei
5.00 (Excellent) | November 2006 | michellei
No Love Left in the World
Wow.
That was certainly powerful reading.
I try to be upbeat as I can when I'm out and about with smiles for all. You just never know who will need that smile and best of all they are free.
Miss Cheeky Chops was fasinated by the man who collects our trolleys at the supermarket today. What is five minutes out of my life to say hi - you do a great job?
To him he may of felt like a million bucks but for us to give that time to him and validate his existence was far greater - the gift of allowing Olivia to have empathy and compasion for fellow man.

Sorry for the rant


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      jenlemen
November 2006 | jenlemen
No Love Left in the World
you can rant here! this is the kind of rant i can relate to! when i was growing up, my mom always took time to talk to people, ask them about their jobs, about their days, to care. it made a big impression on me and i bet your kindness is affecting miss cheeky chops, too! :) thanks for commenting.


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